Ok, so I'm alittle new to this, but I think this may give me some insight on how many other woman deal with a pretty boy boyfriend who gets some sort of high out of having "any" woman gauke over him. I got a little pissed off at my boyfriend Thanksgiving Day. The day started out great, getting ready to go volunteer at our parish for the Holiday Dinner. We go every year and then visit my Mom and Dad for a later dinner. I only have one problem when we go and I just wondered if it's me trying to find something out of nothing. I didn't start out being Catholic, but converted for Him (boyfriend). I guess I should try to catch you up to speed of where I'm going with this. I think faster than I can type. I've been with my boyfriend for 7 years now. I met him shortly after I decided on my 34th Birthday that I no longer wanted to be in my marriage. My mom died at that age, and I thought life is too short to be unhappy and stuck with someone for the rest of your life who I couldn't see growning old with. So when my last vacation with my then husband turned out to be a nightmare, I decided I had enough of this 15 year marriage. I started going out a lot and met Nick (boyfriend now) at a bar. We seemed to enjoy each other when we saw each other, but he was a very handsome man to me, and it seemed he was handsome to quite a few lady's at the bar. Maybe my self esteem was kind of low and I wasn't sure if it was just the sex he was interested in or if he actually liked me. I remember telling him in the beginning, "if you and I aren't exclusive, then let me know, so I make sure to use protection with you". He, of coarse, always said that he was only seeing me and he had no time to see other people. I enjoyed being with him when I could be with him so I decided to believe him. I only saw him every other week because he had 2 younger children he has custody of every other week. I was just starting my divorce process and him being Catholic religion, he really didn't want me to meet his daughters till I was divorced. He saw me as still "married" until the divorce was final. So, because I really liked him, I played the game he wanted me to play. I saw him every other week. When he had his children for the week, I didn't come over and when he didn't have them I saw him at least 4 to 5 days out of the week. Little did I know, since he called the shots as to when I would see him, he was secretly dating on Match.com. I'd wait all day for a call from him and I wouldn't get a call. Let's just say, I might have been alittle bit obsessed with him and would constantly look at my phone all day. Some say he has a Pierce Brosnan sort of look. There's really a lot more I could go into and probably will eventually, but I want to get back to my thought in question. I have now been going to this parish for about 5 years now and One name has come up every so often. Probably nothing but I just want some input. It all started when we were leaving church a few years ago. A lady stopped Nick as we were walking out. I don't think she noticed me because it is really busy after church and the exit areas get really crowed. She was soo excited to tell him that the prayer group was going to start and made sure he knew that she would be going. I guess I just kinda stepped back and acted like I didn't notice the big grin on her face and the fact that he never turned around to look for me to introduce me as his girlfriend. After that day, I would always look to see if she was in church and if she was making glances at him. She wasn't always there but when she was, I would see her checking him and me out. I never seen him talk to her, but she always made sure that if she was around, she would go out of her way to say hi to him. Was it possible that they had gone out before? How do I aproach him or do I just let it go as maybe her infatuation. Anyways, she heads the Thanksgiving dinner each year and it seems like every year, he makes his way to the back kitchen to talk to her. He just becomes missing in action. One time, he comes out of the kitchen and has a full pan of brownies she had given him. Well, for some reason, I was on the prowl this year to see if he was going to go out of his way to talk to her again. After we volunteered, we were able to go get something to eat and sat down with his mom and children. All of a sudden, he leaves the table and is missing in action. When I found him he, you guessed it, in another room chit chatting with her and a few other ladies. I don't know if it bothers me more because he goes to talk to her or that he doesn't invite me. I don't even know if that makes sense. Maybe my self esteem is a lot lower now that he has told me I'm getting to be as big as a whale and have let myself go. What do you think? I did confront him and he said that there was seriously something wrong with me. He said that he went to thank her for the great dinner she put on again. Funny thing is is earlier when we were sitting there eating, he had mentioned to his mother that "Michelle" had told him that she didn't cook anything for the Dinner this year. Make up your mind right?